Through communication and allow both sides to know each other's thinking, and thus understand each other, finally reaching a consensus. Therefore, we must learn to learn to communicate. Only by communication and understanding, in order to identify the cause of the problem, the focus of contradictions, but also in order to better resolve conflicts, solve the problem. However, the real work, there are many people who have to communicate with others just do not like to encounter things that deal with problems, always rest on its laurels like in accordance with their own ideas to influence others, so invite others to hate themselves aggrieved.